Shame
Shame plays a role in self-regulation and moral behavior, though excessive shame can be harmful. It helps us understand and maintain social boundaries and personal standards.
Common Triggers
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Betraying Values
Acting against personal principles.
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Exposure
Having private matters revealed publicly.
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Failure to Meet Expectations
Not living up to others’ standards.
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Guilt
Feeling responsible for harming others.
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Public Mistake
Making an error in front of others.
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Rejection
Being socially excluded or criticized.
Physical Signs
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Blushing
Cheeks or face turn red with embarrassment.
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Fidgeting
Restless movements like tapping or shifting.
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Lowered Gaze
Eyes look down, avoiding contact.
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Slumped Posture
Shoulders hunch, body curls inward.
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Sweaty Palms
Hands become clammy from nervousness.
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Tight Throat
Throat feels constricted, hard to speak.
Management Strategies
Practice self-compassion
Treat yourself with kindness to counter feelings of shame.
Reframe mistakes
View errors as learning opportunities rather than failures.
Seek supportive feedback
Talk to trusted people for perspective and encouragement.
Focus on strengths
Remind yourself of your positive qualities to rebuild confidence.
Journal feelings
Write about shame to process and release it constructively.